Don't underestimate the power of talk. That little title on top might contain the word "words", but look again. There's two of them. I placed two of them there for a sole purpose - to stress on how important it is. Honestly, people have no idea what kind of power they possess when they are able to harness the meaning of "words with words". They may be the exact same words, but the two cannot do without each other. Each, despite similar, is like water without a cup to hold it. Like many say, it takes two hands to clap.
My life and constant observations of the way things work around me make this concept very obvious to me. And it frustrates me when others just don't see it. As a result, people around me show no signs of having the ability to cultivate healthy relationships. Everyone I don't actually share friendships with, I notice, are actually selfish, one-sided and "un-selfless". It's hard to talk to them, because they don't talk to you. Even if they do, half the time I wish they'd stopped. My point is, talk. I don't care how hard it is, do it. You never know the things you could do if you just. tried. So try. :)
Do you know why there are stereotypes? Do you know students like all of us think of different schools a certain way? Do you know why we judge? Do you know why people quarrel? Do you? Do you? Do you? Most people don't, which is sad. Honestly, I feel like the world could be a much better place without all these. And all it takes is good communication. When was the last time someone told you their problems and you listened? When was the last time you told someone your own problems? When was the last time you told someone "good job!" for something well done? And when was the last time someone told you a sweet "thank you" in return?
I was chatting with Celine while eating ice-cream on Friday, and all of a sudden I felt frustrated. I told her how I felt about the whole divide between top schools and government schools. I know this is a rather sensitive issue, but why on earth is it so in the first place? We're still Singaporeans no matter how, squeezing to live in this little place. Yet stereotypes and misunderstandings exist, stereotypes that raise the divide between different students higher than it should be. The silly thing is, most stereotypes aren't even valid. Things like mgs girls are boy crazy, bitchy, such stereotypes only exist because of a minority but it instantly forms that impression of all mgs girls in others.
So you see that's the pity and frustration I feel, being one of those silly labels. Even worse, having someone paste the label on you without the chance to justify it. Stereotyping others is misunderstanding others. Misunderstanding others is not talking to them. People around me don't even attempt to mix around with other Singaporeans, with the constant reminder of their differences in their heads. But if we don't talk to them, how are we going to confirm that they are even different? That's why I say, give talking a shot, because the fabric can't be made without the thread. People will be amazed what talking can do.
My life and constant observations of the way things work around me make this concept very obvious to me. And it frustrates me when others just don't see it. As a result, people around me show no signs of having the ability to cultivate healthy relationships. Everyone I don't actually share friendships with, I notice, are actually selfish, one-sided and "un-selfless". It's hard to talk to them, because they don't talk to you. Even if they do, half the time I wish they'd stopped. My point is, talk. I don't care how hard it is, do it. You never know the things you could do if you just. tried. So try. :)
Do you know why there are stereotypes? Do you know students like all of us think of different schools a certain way? Do you know why we judge? Do you know why people quarrel? Do you? Do you? Do you? Most people don't, which is sad. Honestly, I feel like the world could be a much better place without all these. And all it takes is good communication. When was the last time someone told you their problems and you listened? When was the last time you told someone your own problems? When was the last time you told someone "good job!" for something well done? And when was the last time someone told you a sweet "thank you" in return?
I was chatting with Celine while eating ice-cream on Friday, and all of a sudden I felt frustrated. I told her how I felt about the whole divide between top schools and government schools. I know this is a rather sensitive issue, but why on earth is it so in the first place? We're still Singaporeans no matter how, squeezing to live in this little place. Yet stereotypes and misunderstandings exist, stereotypes that raise the divide between different students higher than it should be. The silly thing is, most stereotypes aren't even valid. Things like mgs girls are boy crazy, bitchy, such stereotypes only exist because of a minority but it instantly forms that impression of all mgs girls in others.
So you see that's the pity and frustration I feel, being one of those silly labels. Even worse, having someone paste the label on you without the chance to justify it. Stereotyping others is misunderstanding others. Misunderstanding others is not talking to them. People around me don't even attempt to mix around with other Singaporeans, with the constant reminder of their differences in their heads. But if we don't talk to them, how are we going to confirm that they are even different? That's why I say, give talking a shot, because the fabric can't be made without the thread. People will be amazed what talking can do.
